Come Together, Speck and Plank.

"It is all beautifully, messily intertwined, this family stuff!"
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Yeah, I quoted myself. Don't judge. You're not allowed to judge. Well, actually that's not entirely true. Okay, judge away. I welcome it.
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 God has ordained that we live together. That our paths are intertwined. Inextractable from each other. The plank and the speck removals are in sync. We don't do one without the other. Or the other without the one.

The eye cannot say to the hand, “I have no need of you,” nor again the head to the feet, “I have no need of you.” On the contrary, the parts of the body that seem to be weaker are indispensable, and on those parts of the body that we think less honorable we bestow the greater honor, and our unpresentable parts are treated with greater modesty, which our more presentable parts do not require. But God has so composed the body, giving greater honor to the part that lacked it, that there may be no division in the body, but that the members may have the same care for one another. If one member suffers, all suffer together; if one member is honored, all rejoice together.
1 Corinthians 12:21-26

We are to be sharpening as we're being sharpened.
Loving as we're being loved.
Correcting as we're taking correction.
You just got served! Great. Be serving. 
We are a body, with many parts. If one part is sick, the entire body is affected.

I am he as you are he as you are me and we are all together.
I Am The Walrus Beatles

We are not the judge of the heart. Only God has the wisdom and insight for that. Um, not to mention, the sinless motives.
“I the Lord search the heart
    and test the mind,
to give every man according to his ways,
    according to the fruit of his deeds.”
Jeremiah 17:20

However, are we to ignore a weakened, ill part of our body? No. But notice with what care we are to do it. 
Brothers, if anyone is caught in any transgression, you who are spiritual should restore him in a spirit of gentleness. Keep watch on yourself, lest you too be tempted. Bear one another's burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.  For if anyone thinks he is something, when he is nothing, he deceives himself
Galatians 6:1-3

As Paul encouraged the church of the Thessalonians.
And we urge you, brothers, admonish the idle, encourage the fainthearted, help the weak, be patient with them all. See that no one repays anyone evil for evil, but always seek to do good to one another and to everyone.
1 Thessalonians 5:14-15

I shiver to think of where I would be if my family of believers had excused or ignored my poor, deceived, and utterly destructive choices.
SHIVER! SHAKE! TREMBLE!
Have nightmares on a regular basis.
No thank you.
The ripple effects are too numerous and awful. That would not be love. For anyone.
​ To be sure, it is uncomfortable and down right painful. It's wound care.
Of course, we are tender to criticism. It hurts. Not everyone does it with the purpose of grace and restoration. There are too many wounds of arrogance and control disguised as rebuke within church families not to have a reaction to judgement of our actions. But Jesus himself laid out a perfect plan and motive for correcting a brother. And we are to follow it. It starts with humble, discreet dialogue between the two.

If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother.
Matthew 18:15

"You have gained your brother." Your brother! 
​We have to be ready with humility in our owns hearts to give and receive correction. Giving our hearts to God over and over during the process to check our own defensiveness and pride and limited wisdom in giving such correction. Allowing the Holy Spirit to bring to light our owns sins and errors in the process, with honesty. 
See what happens here? We are being refined together. At the same time, within what should be the safety of our family.....our own body. We are to care for it the same, seeking wholeness. 

Know, as always, that I write as God is working on my heart. In my own accountability.
I mean, I got snippy when someone asked me to sit down at a rock show the other night.
hello! how dare you! grumble, grumble,grumble.....
seriously, i am so humble with correction, right? 
So when you're all as perfect as me.........
With love, goodnight day 24.

​And remember. Liebe über Alles.
Love and love alone
Will outlast death
Violet Burning

I played around with the planks and speck back in June with  live together,die alone. Give it a read, if you're so inclined. 
1 Corinthians is also filled with wisdom for the church in this area. 

Beatles Come Together
I'm Working On A Building 77s